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Unpublished blog entry #4- Ready or notThis is the most recent unpublished blog entry I've written- I did it last week. I was going to post it up right after I've written it but thinking twice, maybe it was an inappropriate moment. This time it's just for the sake of an update. And it turned out I did have PMS. Heheh. Read on:I'm feeling tired tonight but I can't sleep. Maybe because my mood has been kind of down. So I felt like typing this out, while my mind is still alert after watching two episodes of Heroes back to back.Maybe it's just PMS kicking in (though I doubt that very much since it's not that time of the month yet), but I've been doing some thinking and came to the conclusion: I'm tired of trying too hard to make an effort. Why can't things just come naturally? Make an effort but don't overdo it. I know this may be invalid because it's the opinion of only one person, but feelings don't grow in days or weeks. It takes time to blossom. Infatuation, fascination, lust and attraction won't guarantee something. I'm still reluctant. And even if I do try to push that reluctance aside, I still won't be 100% confident and I'll be constantly questioning my effort. I'm tired of trying to impress, trying to find common ground, trying to find that 'click'. Why can't people just let it come naturally? When people say it's hard to fall for a friend, they probably don't have the same view as I do. I'd like to get to know a person first, talk about ourselves, stumble across uncanny similarities, get past unavoidable differences. TALK. Talk about ANYTHING. There's no use trying to like someone when you can't even string words together to say to them. You may not think it's an awkward silence for you, but it may be an awkward silence for them. A comfortable silence between two people can only be achieved when they can already have a comfortable conversation between themselves.I just can't see myself falling for someone who I hardly know. Even if both sides try to make an effort, there's no use if there's no 'click'. I can't be totally comfortable with just anyone. I can't be spending precious time and precious money on just anyone. The string of flings I've been through the past couple of months had made me tiresome. Maybe I still am, I'm not sure.We've got all the time in the world. It's just that peer pressure is forcing us not to make use of it. Screw peer pressure; if you're young and able, take life by the reins. You don't have to force yourself to find someone so you can tell your friends you're getting some. It's perfectly fine to take things slow. When it comes to the point when you think you're going somewhere, only then you question yourself and each other. "I just want to be friends with the person I love, is that too much to ask for?"Letting someone into your heart is all about taking the risk. But if that risk means a possibility of breaking my heart, then no. I won't take it, because I'm too much of a coward to.Huda on Thursday, March 20, 2008Survival instinctWhile being away from home, meeting new people and sharing stories about each other's personal lives, I've gained some perspective about how we live our life budget-wise. I'd like to think that I come from an average family; both my parents have full-time jobs, juggling between their day jobs and taking care of their kids when they're done with the monotonous routine. Both my parents have qualifications to be proud of- my mom graduated with her Bachelors degree a couple of years ago while my dad has a Masters degree. Both have strived to work for a promotion and have got what they wanted, all this to make their families lives easier. And I'm very grateful for that. We may not be able to afford monthly shopping trips to neighbouring countries, we may not be able to buy ourselves expensive designers or show off the latest gadgets. But we have more than enough to get by. Me and both of my sisters have been educated in, I have to say, some of the best schools in the country. My parents value education greatly and I see that from their determination to carry on studying even at their age now. A high level of education can get you places, especially in Brunei. And even though I don't feel like I've been spoilt much, they do pamper me and my siblings from time to time. We have more than enough to get by- I was given an Olympus camera for acing my PMB's, a mobile phone for getting through my O Levels, and a laptop for being able to get the scholarship. I don't think I'd ask for more. And I'm grateful for that, even if we can't afford luxury, but we survive- far from barely. I have no idea how my parents do it, but they do.My years in the UK have made me think, maybe me being here under the funding of the government scholarship has made my parents' burden lessen. I have never asked them for money in the two years that I have been here. The allowance provided to me by the government and life's savings plus the will to resist temptation have made me still stand here today without asking for a cent from them. My sister's are still in school, still growing up and need more attention. The money should be well invested on them.Some people live the high life, some are like me who have more than enough to get by, and some others have to sacrifice surviving in society just to carry on surviving in life. I listen to varying degrees of stories- from family holidays every month in countries far and wide to tales of hardship and trying to scrape money just to pay for a week's worth of food. Even if I whine at times that my family isn't an 'utopian' one, I'm still grateful that I'm part of it- one with an equal balance of luxury and humility.Huda on Tuesday, March 18, 2008My baby's hereAfter two months of waiting, it's finally here! Angau ku =pThe weekend was awesome. We went up to Nottingham for the Brunei Easter Games; the day before I was out and about Birmingham and didn't have a wink of sleep because of the last minute banner preparations! Unfortunately we didn't win the banner competition, but at least we felt the team spirit. As usual, gatherings mean meeting friends and new people. The lack of sleep plus the anxiety and excitement made my mood fluctuate; sorry if I've been a right bitch at times. Overall the event was good; I only fell asleep because I didn't have enough. The day was a promising start too =)Tomorrow some of the Brummies are participating in the Asian Games at the University of Birmingham, playing badminton. Hopefully I can get my tired ass there to show some support.HOLIDAYS HAVE OFFICIALLY STARTED! I can't wait for =)Huda on Saturday, March 15, 2008Pre- holidayThe guys came over last night wanting to play Guitar Heroes. But our PS2 isn't modded and their game 'is', so the next choice was Singstar =p Tony atu menahan rasa ganya tu kan main Singstar ah. I myself haven't played it in a while and it felt good after I did. While I was in the kitchen washing the dishes, Saiful and Tony belted out to The Righteous Brothers' Unchained Melody. As I scrubbed off the remnants of rendang sticking onto our frying pan, I couldn't help imagining how gay the two guys looked lying down on the couch singing together to a romantic classic. Fadz came to the living room and confirmed that thought for me.Playing Singstar for a bit and talking to my friends made me forget about my agendas for a while. Nothing is really going on in my life other than coursework, errands, holiday plans and responsibility to my family. It's just that I'm a bit tiresome of making the effort. Other than that, plans are already underway. The next few weeks will be good and I'm looking forward to it; I'm already anxious. To think that I'm actually thinking of what to wear already.. ugh. That's why when the guys came over I felt a bit relieved, to be able to have the chance to concentrate on something else for a while. Coursework needs to be done too. I'd like to do a large part of it before the holidays start so I can relax for the first two weeks of Easter and get back on track again in the last week. Hopefully I'll be able to do most of it. And not screw up my Easter holidays. Good luck to everyone for everything and enjoy the holidays =)Huda on Thursday, March 13, 2008My top 5 songs of the momentIf anyone has been paying attention to what I've been listening lately through Instant Messenger or Last.fm, I've on repeat songs from Maliq & D'essentials, a soul/jazz band from Indonesia. Thus, this post will consist of all Maliq & D'essentials songs! XD1) DiaLovely song, found this on YouTube and fell more and more in love with it every time I listen to it. A very simple, straightforward meaning- describing what their special one means to them.Dia seperti apa yang selalu ku nantikanAku inginkanDia melihatku apa adanyaSeakan ku sempurna2) TerdiamSo ironic, this song made me smile silly in the wee hours of the night. Everyone can relate to this; when someone catches your eye but you don't have the guts to go up and ask their name. Boo ;pApakah kau rasakan getarankuPada dirimuKu hanya duduk terdiamMenunggu untuk tahu namamu3) Kangen (Piano)This is the slowed down piano version of their upbeat hit of the same title. There's no need to explain this one, cuma gue kangen sama loe. Kangen banget!Bawalah daku bersama ke dalam setiap langkahmuDi mana pun kau berada, rinduku semakin merajaKangen aku padamu tiada akan dapat ku obatiTanpa ku nikmati senyum mu4) Sampai KapanThis is a duet with Camelia, and the song which I think has the most heartfelt lyrics. Lagu ini menceritakan tentang rasa cinta yang tidak diluahkan (that line was in Malay because I have no idea how to write it in English without sounding gay). I would love to post all the lyrics, because each verse seems to describe their feelings so perfectly. But instead I'll post the part of the song that first caught my attention.Pantaskah diriku ingin mengharapkanSuatu yang lebih dari hanya sekadar perhatian dari dirimuYang kau anggap biasa saja5) Masih TersimpanThis song sounds a bit more RnB-ish and offers a little more heartbreak in terms of lyrics; it's about someone who still has feelings for their ex.Jelas tergambar senyumanmuJelas terlukiskan wajahmuDi hatiku masih tersimpan dirimuYou know, I had a hard time describing the songs, because all I feel like doing is saying, "eeeh lawa bah lagu ani lawa lawaaaaa *smiles silly*". But I tried the best I could. The soulful melodies and sweet lyrics can't help but make you feel like you're walking on air. Oleh sebab itulah saya merumuskan bahawa lagu-lagu dari Maliq & D'essentials adalah sesuai bagi orang yang sedang mabuk kepayang angau dilanda cinta yang begitu indah. Heeheehee.Before I type off, I just want to mention what went through my mind just now. I went to Uni and stopped by the city to get some necessities; I passed by Millie's cookies and Baskin Robbins ice cream. I couldn't help but think how many times I've passed by the place and always controlled my cravings. How sad. I wish my dad were here now because one thing I really miss about him is, if it's about food, he'll pamper us. No use controlling your cravings, he said, karang kempunan. So yea, I wish I had my dad around during these times. Or maybe have lots of money so I can eat as many Millie's cookies and Baskin Robbins ice cream as I want. Whoever said that the best things in life are free must already be dead. In this world we're living in now, everything that is good costs you, everything that isn't costs you cheaper.Everyday my life is like a routine- some things I do repetitively, some things come uncalled for and some surprises take you aback. But there is one thing among other things that I do everyday - wish I had more money. And everytime I wish for more money, I'll always end my rants by saying "kawin sama orang kaya ku eh". XPHuda on Wednesday, March 12, 2008Unpublished blog entry #3 - No titleThis was written about eight months ago, and I'm glad to say that I've moved on. This was just some of the stuff that I wrote to let out the constant flow of questions through my head:"Ko ani Huda.. atu kan hensem boyfriend mu.. cana buleh putus atu kan?", my friend asked me. I fobbed his question off by changing the topic. But when I thought back about it, it made me laugh. Yes, he is good-looking and charming. I've set my standards too high. But he was too good to be true anyway. Things like that don't last. Especially not for someone like me. I know, I know, I shouldn't be pessimistic. I am pretty, I am cute, I am attractive. Oh yaa, I tell that to myself 30 times a day to make me feel better. But it still doesn't change the fact that I'm none of those things. Prince Charmings aren't meant for peasant girls.Sometimes I forget what it feels like to be single. Which is crazy, because I spent most of my teen life being single, and only 5 months with someone. When I think of other guys that I could've hooked up with, I think of the lost causes that I had throughout the times. The rejected, the rejecters, the unspoken. Most of them are happy now. They've probably experienced the same thing I am experiencing now. Maybe in a not so heart-wrenching way because the resentment in me is still telling me that guys get over breakups easily.Why do those Korean drama series have to blind us women? There is no real life Hyun Bin or Kim Jae Won or Lee Dong Wook or Daniel Henney. No one is that perfect. Like what my Maths teacher back in college would say, "nobody's perfect. So I'm nobody". Lame, I know! But there you have it, perfect = nobody. There's nobody in this world that is good looking and charming and talented and has a great life, great job, no issues whatsoever, and can treat a woman like she is constantly walking on air all the time. There's no such guy who has ALL of that characteristics. Everything positive that a guy has always has a negative to balance him out. A guy can be uber-hot but is also an-uber jerk. A guy could be unattractive but knows how to treat a woman with the respect that she deserves.Speaking of Korean drama series, I've recently watched My Name is Kim Sam Soon. I think it's one of the best series I've watched by far. Why I give applause to My Name is Kim Sam Soon, you ask? Being a person who just had their heart broken, it taught me a lot of things. Sam Soon, this 30 year-old single, chubby, not-so pretty lady, with her ups and downs of love and life, said a lot of things that at times were like a hard slap on the face, and at other times made me smile silly. It's a real tear-jerker, especially if you're heartbroken. Memories, broken hearts, being dumped, confusion. Just some of the ingredients of Sam Soon's love life.To learn about love, you have to be a street smart. Books, articles, listening to other people's experiences can only get you so far. You have to experience it for yourself. I used to question a lot of things about love. I remember asking a friend, "why can't two good friends become lovers?". She replied, "because things will get awkward if they break up". I questioned her again, "how could it get awkward? They started out as friends, it shouldn't be hard to change back to the way they were". Yes, that was me, the naive me talking. Now, after going through an almost full cycle of being in a relationship, I can say that I was naive. I've always denied being naive, because I thought that my emotional walls were strong enough to resist any temptation that came my way. I underestimated love. It's not something you can plan or predict or shape into how you want it to be. Love controls us. Can we control love? Maybe we can learn to. Every relationship will be different than the last. Because the two people in that story are different. Even if we're the same people who star in a relationship, it's still different because it's a whole other story.As young adults, marriage isn't something that we would fuss about at our age. Furthermore if you've been single for so long. Only a few people know this, but I always said I'd think of getting married when I'm 30. A friend of mine found it amusing and questioned me whether that age was a little too old. So okay, for him I reduced it to 27. Another 7 years for me to think about marriage. By then, most of the good men would be taken, and I might be left with less mature men, or those who are unlucky enough to be labelled as 'ineligible bachelors'.Is there a soulmate for everyone? Is it naive to believe that there is? The world is cruel. It's not always like those sweet romance movies. We all need a Dr Cox around us, someone who can give us a dose of what reality is really like.Huda on Sunday, March 09, 2008Perihal laguI went to bed late last night and listened to my mp3 player for a bit; haven't used those Sennheisers in a while. This song came on and I couldn't help thinking how what the song tells could happen to everyone:I also found this on YouTube while I was doing my search for that song above. It'll grow :)Huda on Friday, March 07, 2008